As I mentioned in my last post, we moved to New Jersey and bought a car.
In order to register the car in NJ, I had to drive over to the building where they make you wait in long lines and fill out multiple forms to declare state residency. At the end of this long process, some guy behind a big counter snapped my picture and printed out a new New Jersey license with my name and information on it.
Then, chuckling to himself, he handed me my license and said “You are now officially a Jersey Girl.” The people around me chuckled as well.
I almost started crying.
As happy as I am at this very moment that I have a great job, a beautiful house, and an amazing husband,
when the license guy called me a “Jersey Girl” I suddenly realized that this was my life — I live in New Jersey. When I am 48, I’ll be living in New Jersey. When I am 97, I’ll be living in New Jersey. If I have kids, they will be Jersey kids in a Jersey school system with Jersey friends.
Now, I do not have any fundamental problems with New Jersey as a state. It is quite lovely. But, I don’t know anything about its history or quirks. I can’t even name the state flower or insect. Everything that I pride myself in knowing about Kansas doesn’t apply to my life here anymore, which makes me sad.
I’ve been sharing this story with Dave’s family as a “ha-ha aren’t I silly?” story, but something about the whole “You are now a Jersey Girl” really set me off kilter. I’m sure I’ll get over it, as soon as I study up on New Jersey history.
Monday, 27 October 2008 at 5:38 pm
Sure, you’re a Jersey Girl now and that’s obviously part of who you are…but you can still be a Kansas Girl too. That’s where you’ve been…and it’s just as important. It got you where you are today…living in Jersey, in a new house, driving a new car, and (most importantly) married to a great man!
Tuesday, 28 October 2008 at 6:38 pm
You should totally go visit my cousin Dawn and aunt Ethel. As long as you don’t begin to SPEAK like them, I think you’ll be ok. And it’s not JERSEY- it’s JOY-ZEE!
Tuesday, 28 October 2008 at 10:04 pm
oh self-identification is a DOOZIE! a real doozie.
‘jersey girl’ is also a cute little movie with ben affleck and liv tyler. i love liv tyler. does that make you feel better?
Sunday, 16 November 2008 at 7:16 pm
Wow . . . a house in Jersey.
My fav Jersey movie: Garden State with Natalie Portman and Zach Braff!
Congratulations on being an official SettledCouple
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